Friday, January 29, 2010
Grace and Kindness Meet
This little list comes from a late-nineteenth century book entitled "Correct Manners" A little bit of nostalgia that I hope you enjoy! Nineteenth century courtesies that were valued enough to be written down to be remembered. However after reading it I sadly realize I often fall short....choosing not to berate myself or make excuses, I think today I shall remember the grace...kindness...consideration expressed by another woman many years ago.
Never break an engagement when one is made, whether of a business or social nature. If you are compelled to do so, make an immediate apology either by note or in person.
Be punctual as to time, precise as to payment, honest and thoughtful in all your transactions, whether with rich or poor.
Never look over the shoulder of one who is reading, or intrude yourself into a conversation in which you are not invited or expected to take part.
Tell the truth at all times and in all places. It is better to have a reputation for truthfulness than one for wit, wisdom, or brilliancy.
Avoid making personal comments regarding a person's dress, manners, or habits. Be sure you are all right in thee respects, and you will find you have quite enough to attend to.
Always be thoughtful regarding the comfort and pleasure of others. Give the best seat in your room to a lady, an aged person or and invalid.
Ask no questions about the affairs of your friends unless he wants your advice. Then he will tell you all he desires to have you know.
A true lady or gentleman, one who is worthy of the name, will never disparage one of the other sex by word or deed.
Always remember that a book that has been loaned you is not yours to loan to another.
Mention your wife or your husband with the greatest respect, even in your most familiar references.
If you have calls to make, see that you attend to them punctually. Your friend may reasonably think you slight them when you fail to do so.
Be neat and careful in your dress, but take care not to overdress. The fop is almost as much of an abomination as the slovenly man.
If wine or liquors are used on your table or in your presence never urge others to use them against their own inclinations.